Premature ejaculation affects 30% of men but it is easily treated.
There is a sexual issue that affects nearly one in three men at some point in their lives. It's far more common than most people realise and can sometimes be made fun of, primarily because it makes men (and women too) quite uncomfortable. Despite being treatable, individuals and couples dealing with this problem can go months or years denying or trying to ignore the issues, to the detriment of their relationships as well as their self-confidence and self-esteem.
Rapid, or premature, ejaculation doesn't have a black and white set definition, as sexual responses are unique and change over time, however it can generally be defined as when ejaculation always or nearly always occurs prior to, or within one minute of beginning intercourse, or the person experiences an inability to delay climax during intercourse every, or just about every time.
If you or someone you love has this problem, things can seem bleak. However, in a way, you're lucky because it is considered one of the most straightforward and treatable sexual dysfunctions. Some sex therapists boast a 98% client success rate. The key is to recondition the sexual response so that stimulation doesn't speed up the desire to orgasm, but rather maintains a slow, steady pace for arousal.
A series of exercises, called either the "stop-start" or "squeeze-tease" method, designed by famed sex therapist couple Masters and Johnson, cal help change this sexual response.
There are detailed descriptions of these exercises in the book and many other specialist sex books, or you can visit a sex therapist, who can explain the treatment strategies and guide you and your partner through addressing the triggers that may be causing the rapid sexual response.
Ideally, a man starts the "squeeze-tease" treatment process on his own, before you move on to trying the exercises as a couple. Do not rush the process and follow each step sequentially. It's also vital not to buy into gimmicks such as desensitising lotions, or any potions that make outlandish claims. It it seems too good to be true then it probably is.
You can't speed through the treatment, so it does take work and attention to fix this condition. Follow the steps, first alone, then as a couple, and in a few months 20-to-120-second sex will be a distant memory.
And there's an added bonus: the process of treating the problem often strongly connects couples and creates a new openness and intimacy. So, in addition to a cure, you can expect many positive changes to your sex life.